Ep 35: Rebuilding Confidence After Rejection: A Guide for the Anxiously Attached with Sheilanova Cornelio
Host: Melie Williams
Guest: Sheilanova Cornelio
Rejection hurts — whether it’s a breakup, divorce, job loss, or friendship ending — but for those of us who identify as anxiously attached, it can feel like the ground has been ripped out from under us. It’s more than disappointment; it shakes our sense of worth, safety, and belonging.
In this episode, I’m joined by anxious attachment coach Sheilanova Cornelio, who specializes in helping people rewrite their emotional stories, untangle shame-based thought patterns, and create the kind of deep inner safety that allows them to thrive in relationships — and in life.
Sheilanova gets radically honest about her own journey from “false confidence” to becoming “bulletproof to rejection.” Together, we break down how to shift those self-sabotaging thought loops, heal anxious patterns, and start building real, lasting confidence from the inside out.
In this conversation, you’ll learn:
How to separate facts from the painful stories your brain creates
Why rejection triggers deep shame and how to heal it
A powerful exercise to experience your thoughts as separate from your identity
How to rebuild your confidence when you can’t yet see the light at the end of the tunnel
Why your brain is wired to search for threats — and how to retrain it to work for you, not against you
If you’ve been through heartbreak, feel stuck in self-blame, or just want practical tools to stop spiraling and start rebuilding, this episode will give you hope — and a way forward.
Resources & Links:
Connect with Sheilanova on Instagram: @sheilanova
Get her free guide: Unlocking Emotional Security
Sheilanova is an Anxious Attachment Coach who helps women stop overthinking their relationships, feel secure in themselves, and show up with unshakable self-confidence. Her work is all about shifting from anxious patterns to calm, clear connection — without chasing, guessing, or losing yourself.
Find her on Instagram @sheilanova, or get started with her free video series: superpoweryourmind.com/unlock
If this episode encouraged you, share it with someone who needs to know that rejection isn’t the end of their story — it can be the start of a new chapter.
Connect with Melie:
Instagram: @meliewilliams